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October 14, 2013

The Caregiving dilemma – losses and rewards

Filed under: caregiving,Reverse Mortgage — Scott Larson @ 4:21 pm

CNN posted an article that outlines what many of us have or are dealing with. Caregiving for your parents… you can take a look at the article here.  One of the decisions that I made is that I couldn’t do it…

We all have to look at our gifts and see if they match with the needs of our parents.  Mine did not match up to true caregiving.  That’s not to say that I was not there… I was… felt like all the time.  There are wonderful gifted people that have that set of gifts, and they are hugely important.

Caused me some distress for a while – shouldn’t I be there for Mom?  And the answer was yes… but that does not mean that you have to do everything.  Balancing that is part of the art of dealing with parents (with everything really), and part of my balance was hiring a caregiver so that I could be there long term in a way that blessed her, and allowed me to survive.

If your choice is to do it yourself – Go for it!  But make sure that you take care of yourself.  In-home agencies can be hired for respite care, or many assisted living communities will take your parents for a “vacation” in their facility to allow you to get away.  Make sure that is part of your plan.  Also take a look at caregiving.org for other ways to make sure your plan is sustainable…

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